Why we are not buying toys for a year

 

NOT BUYING TOYS

I wanted to share with you all that we have no plans to buy our daughter toys for a whole year.  She was born in the fall and we brought her home hoping that we could handle being new parents.  I tried to hold off on purchasing small things, knowing that we would get gifts from our friends and family.  My husband and I discussed not purchasing toys for our daughter until she was older.  We figured that we would be just adding to the clutter while feeding our own consumerism itch.  We have stuck to this plan for the most part only caving and purchasing a small toy to use up the balance of a gift card.  Before you call me a monster for neglecting my child – think about this; how many toys does your child get from grandparents, friends and relatives?  If it’s anything like my family, you will get more than enough.  My daughter is 9 months old and has 7 toys, some are soft and some play music and she has played with all of them.  At this rate by the time she is 5 years old and wants specific things she’ll probably have over 60 toys.

OK the first image is a bit dramatic - my daughter loves her toys
OK the first image is a bit dramatic – my daughter loves her toys

My plan for toy management:

I’m not a heartless ice queen and know that having something to play with is extremely important for a child.  I was a kid once and have fond memories of playing with marbles and stuffed animals.  Keep in mind that I am a minimalist.  This isn’t some journey or life changing step by step program that I’m taking – it is simply who I am.  Less is more: less things = less time spent cleaning = more time for leisure.  I get rid of the things that I do not use.  I plan on doing the same thing for all of my child’s possessions.  Of course I’m not going to go straight from ‘you haven’t touched this doll in months’ to ‘time to donate all of your toys.’

My plan for keeping the toys under control is to keep 10 toys readily available for play.  The rest will be tucked away in small storage bins ready to be rotated in when a toy that is in use becomes disregarded.  When my daughter gets bored of a toy I’ll put it away and pull out one that she hasn’t seen for a while or once she is able to communicate what she wants to play with she will have her choice of what to keep out and what to put away.  

This toy sings "open up your wallet" etc, etc, I tease my husband that pretty soon our daughter will be batting her eyelashes and asking daddy for money :)
This toy sings “open up your wallet” etc, etc, I tease my husband that pretty soon our daughter will be batting her eyelashes and asking daddy for money 🙂

At the moment there are a few places around my house that toys are kept.  We keep one toy in the parent (our) bedroom – this is because we will hangout in this room as I get ready for work, a few toys are kept in the living room since this is where we spend most of our leisure time, a few toys are kept in the nursery (calling it a nursery makes me feel a little bit like Mary Poppins) these are mostly to entertain during the mornings where I have to run around like a crazy person and feel guilty popping the baby in the crib for 5-10 minutes, so I give her 4 toys to play with – what’s funny is she usually opts to chew on her blanket instead of playing with the stuffed animals or plastic books.  I did keep a toy or two in the kitchen but she really likes playing with measuring cups and plastic container so I moved the toys away and have been rotating Tupperware and other utensils that are baby safe.

Of course my baby is still a baby and doesn’t really care how many toys she has, as long as she is entertained.  As she gets older we will see how my practices work.  I’m striving to keep it minimal as opposed to keeping it organized.  Less toys means that it is easy for my daughter to pick them up every night – complicated organization means that mommy gets to spend time sorting and organizing children’s toys.  And I can definitely think of better ways to spend my time.  Not to downplay the importance of a great organization system but keeping the house clean should be easy or it won’t happen, at least for me.  If I had to take my dirty clothes down stairs every time I was done wearing something, then my floor would be covered in dirty clothing.  Instead I keep a laundry basket and our dirty clothes (mostly) live there until it is time for laundry.  Some people have the willpower to spend the extra time every night doing chores but I am not one of them.  I spend my predetermined amount of time on household chores and if things don’t get done in that X amount of minutes then I leave it alone and then think about ways to make chores more efficient.  No one should need to spend an hour ever night to keep their house in order – if you do then you need to spend a little time revamping your system.

 

Rebelling Against the Diaper Bag

Minimalist Diaper Bag!

Someone, somewhere decided that parents everywhere need to have all of this stuff with them at all times so that they could be prepared for every disaster that could possibly happen once they have a child.  Baby had a diaper leak all over their clothes?  Not to worry because I have an extra outfit in my diaper bag!  Baby suddenly has diaper rash?  Butt paste to the rescue!  We are prepared!  Let me take off my super woman cape and think about this.  How often has my baby needed a change of clothes while we are out and about?  I can count on one hand and one of those times I didn’t have an extra onesie – do you know what I did?  I cleaned my baby up and let her go naked (it was pretty hot out anyway).  

My Minimalist Diaper Bag

Here is my diaper bag.  I bring the following for trips lasting 3 hours or less:

  1. A bottle with powdered formula
  2. A couple of diapers (usually 2)
  3. Ziploc bag with 4 wipes in it

And that’s it!  I’m sure some of you are doubting that I am even a mother.  How could she travel so light and not be the sad recipient of some bad luck?   I’ll admit that the first few outings with my newborn I was a bit unsure of what to bring.  I have a diaper bag because I’m a first time mom and bought lots of stuff that I probably didn’t need.  But that’s something we can discuss another time 😉  So anyway, I thought that I had to fill my diaper bag with stuff and was having a hard time doing so.  I brought several diapers, and portable changing pad, receiving blankets, diaper cream, a container of wipes, toys, snacks for me, and a couple changes of clothes.  My bag was about half way full and I thought that it was good enough for a trial run.  I’m sure a lot of you are thinking that this sounds pretty normal – and it does.  But I’m a minimalist and I don’t like carrying extra stuff if I can do without.

Here is what I found is necessary to bring on an outing:

Food – I bring a bottle with powdered formula in it, most of the time I can find a water fountain somewhere or we end up stopping to lunch and I can get water there.  If I know we’re going someplace without running water or a cheap alternative, like an outdoor festival – then I’ll bring another bottle with just water in it or fill a water bottle for both adult drinking and mixing baby bottles later.  If we are going to be out for lunch we usually will eat out.  I had one time that I brought a small bag of cerial on a flight so that my baby could be distracted if needed.

Diapers – Of course you don’t want your baby to be sitting in poop for an extended period of time.  Diapers are a no brainer for me.  If we lived in the jungle we could just walk around naked and that would be even more minimal!  Eh, no that wouldn’t be fun.  Especially since my daughter isn’t walking yet.

Baggie with wipes – so this item can serve multiple purposes.  I have used the wipes to clean dirty surfaces that my daughter would be touching and putting her mouth on, I’ve used the wipes to clean her face after eating out or giving her a snack.  Wipes clean poopy butts of course.  The real secret weapon is the bag that the wipes are stored in.  If you have an unfortunate diaper blowout and need to remove the dirty clothes from your child the bag serves as a place to put those dirty clothes.

The best part about my must have list for my diaper bag is that everything fits nicely in my regular old purse.  Something that I made a habit was to empty the diaper bag (my purse) every time I get home, this way I’m not walking around with diapers and bottles falling out of my bag when I’m fishing around for my work ID.  This makes getting out the door super quick, it’s less to pack and less things to remember to bring.

Why I make my own baby food

Homemade Baby food

Baby food seemed like one of those things that you just have to buy, because how else would your baby get solid foods?  When my baby was ready to start exploring solids, which we knew because she started opening her mouth like a baby bird when ever we were eating, I started out with a couple of jars of the pureed baby food.  I spent about $0.80 per 2 oz jar or $0.40 per oz of blended green beans.  They didn’t taste that good.  You might think that I’m weird for tasting the baby food, but I don’t want to feed my daughter anything that I’m not willing to at least try.  Anyway, after the first couple jars of food I started to see all of the empty jars in our future, and all of the money that we’d be wasting on expensive blended vegetables.  I started to do a little research on how to make your own baby food.  I was surprised to see that it was quite simple to put a meal for baby together with the equipment that I already had.

A lot of the veggies I’m buying are around $0.99 per lb and will make about 16 oz of food or $0.06.  If my baby is eating 8 to 12 oz of food per day this means that we save $2.72 to $4.08 per day or $81.60 to $122.40 per month.

What you need:

Food – We started with sweet potato, green beans, and peas when she was about 5 to 6 months old.  Now that she is around 8 months old we also give her lentils, zucchini, yellow squash, barley, potatoes, beans, and yogurt.zucchini

Something to cook the food in – a pot with boiling water, a steamer basket or the microwave has been used for several of our different baby food preparation sessions.

Something to process the food – You can use a food mill, food processor, or blender.  I have a Nutra-bullet because – hey I like smoothies (and other blended drinks) so this is what gets used to blend the baby food 90% of the time, mainly because it’s easier clean up than the food processor.  You can smash the food with a fork if you have a truly minimalist kitchen, you might need to peal your veggies if you’re using that method.

Zucchini waiting to be blended

Something to store the food in – We have little glass dishes that hold about 4 oz of food.  I like using the glass dishes because they’re safer to microwave than plastic and you can easily see what is in them.  I also freeze extra baby food in ice cube trays so that I only need to make baby food once every 2 or 3 weeks.  I like being efficient with my time and think batch cooking is a life saver.

Baby food in ice cube trays

Things that I’m figuring out while feeding my daughter:

I’m not afraid to give my baby texture.  I’m a believer that exposing a child to a variety of different colors, flavors and textures will help them keep an open mind in the future.  We shall see how my theory works out since I’m mostly flying by the seat of my pants right now as a first time parent.  I hear that kids don’t get picky about food  till they’re about one year old – so we shall see 🙂  Right now we mix shredded chicken into vegetables, we have lentils with chopped up carrots, onion and celery (which she loves) and I’m starting to chop foods into small bits instead of blending everything.

Gagging will happen, this is different from choking.  I don’t leave my baby unsupervised while she’s eating.  But if she starts to gag a little bit I let her work through it and only hook a finger in her mouth if it goes on more than a few seconds.  I try to stay calm when things like this happen so that I don’t startle my child.

Before we started feeding solids I wanted to try baby led weening.  As we all know, things don’t always happen as planned.  My baby doesn’t really put things in her mouth, which is awesome when there is dirt on the floor but not so awesome when I want her to put some beans in her mouth.  So we are using a spoon and when she gets tired of the spoon, and wrestles it away from us to happily bash on the high chair tray, she eats food from our fingers.  This is more of a ‘go-with-the-flow’ technique than any sort of baby feeding method.  It’s working for us so we’ll continue to flow.